The terror strike in Mumbai is shocking. It goes on to say, no matter where you are vigilance is essential. Indian politicians have a lot to learn from their US counterparts when it comes to standing up to terrorists. The NSG commandos are fighting it out for the country, the operations are still underway at the Taj hotel and Nariman house and all I can see on TV are politicians slinging mud at each other. All I can see are parties supporting themselves and defending their statements and of course trying to offend others. Today I have realized that a lot of good happens in this country but its politicians will never change. What is the message that each of you is giving out to the world? Come out on national TV and support the guys who are actually putting their life on the line trying to fight these terrorists. When 9/11 happened, I was in the US. I watched every TV channel for days together. Every American was with the Govt and I didn’t hear a single person utter “Intelligence Failure” on National TV until weeks later. The need of the hour is not to find the reason but to protect the Nation. A lot of talk and no action is what we have been seeing but I guess that’s Indian politics. India, wake up and go after the offenders.
After 9/11 New York came to a standstill, New Yorkers barely stepped out. Not only New York, the entire country came to a standstill and here I see a difference as well. We really need to applaud the spirit of the Mumbaikars. They are already on their feet, the local trains are already packed to the brim and everyone is nervously normal. This can also happen only in India. The Indian spirit is hard to break. Why can’t Indian politicians have the same spirit? Why can’t they buck up and stick to each other and show the outsiders what the Indian spirit truly is! Is this really wishful thinking……?
I’ve always planned special activities along with K when she was a baby. We’d do something special each week and I enjoyed every bit of it. Gymboree classes were fun and we loved it. Bubble baths were such fun, she’d splash away and nap time was easier later! We enjoyed story time at the library. We also loved the puppet shows and other activities there. She loved books and reading to her was always such fun. One activity that I looked forward to was a lunch of pancakes at IHOP every Thursday. It was fun and she dozed off in the car on our way back. Another fun activity was driving to the mall and playing in the play area and riding the carousel. We did that weekly. I enjoyed grocery shopping with her in the cart. Going out with her let me unwind and I began treasuring our weekly outings. Then she grew up and started school. I started work and it became increasingly difficult to plan outdoor activities with her. She had the Montessori and then activities that kept us busy through out though I still took her to her favourite restaurant for lunch once a month. Each month it was a different favourite, but we enjoyed it. It was always just me and her. I don’t remember when we stopped doing it completely but we started outings as a family and never did anything together, just me and her. I remember the last time we did out Chillis Lunch together, it was such fun and it was definitely last year… I did take her to the movies with friends in December but then we left and here we’ve always had company!
I really missed the alone time without realizing it. I missed taking care of her all by myself and the bonding we had at the time. Then came teacher’s Day a Day off for K. Everyone else had work so it was just me and K. We could have lunched out but K is older now. I decided to take her shopping. It was fantastic. K loved spending time with me at the store and we visited every section. I finally found our special activity. I don’t think I’ll ever need another shopping companion again, well as long as K gets her shoes every time we go shopping. As she grows up and has other things in her life, more significant than our little outings, I can always treasure the memories of our small outing. I love my memories, I wish I could capture all on tape and play it back to DH sometimes!
In the journey of life we often encounter forks in our path. I’ve often wondered about the road not taken. What if I had gone for a Masters instead of starting work, what if I had continued working instead of staying home with K, what if……………….
I try to sum up all the crossroads in life and realize one important aspect of it all. My decisions have made me who I am today. All those roads not taken may have led me places that I might have wanted to go but where did the paths I chose lead me? I got a wonderful year of work and freedom not going for a Masters when I wanted to. I’ll always cherish the year! I got three precious years with K staying at home with her. I would never trade my time with her for anything in the world. My life was enriched beyond words, thanks to the three years. Now, staying home again, waiting for her arrival from school, I often ponder about what would have happened had I not stayed for those three years. I’ve encountered countless cross roads in life and today for some reason am thinking about all the roads that I have taken. All those paths have made me a happy and content woman and have given me countless happy memories. I’m grateful for every single one of those memories and am glad for all the paths I took.
A recent comment inspires me to post again. I’ve been writing off and on but have been putting off posting. The recent festive season gave me a lot of excuses for not posting. I’d almost forgotten how festive season feels in India. The roads bear a festive look with vendors selling flowers/banana leaves and other odds and ends at every available nook and cranny. I just had to get out of the apt complex and there was everything I needed, all in one place. I love festive season in B’lore!
Starting with Ganesha Pooja, I have tried to celebrate every festival, for K’s benefit.
First it was Gowri/Ganesha pooja. Then we had Onam with ILs visiting us as well. It was fun. Navarathri Holidays meant I could go home but I really missed the Gollu display this year. Of course, the grand finale came with Diwali a couple of weeks back. The three of us enjoyed the festivities all over town. Diwali shopping was fun, I don’t remember the last time I did it but it definitely felt great! I had forgotten the sweets we exchanged with neighbours, the lamps we lit, the poojas Amma conducted and the payasams she made. I had all but forgotten the fun of the constant ringing phone with everyone calling us. With the constant excitement, I’ve all but forgotten to upload all my latest rambles!
Thank you SAJ for reminding me to post again!